I read something on Instagram earlier that I loved so much, I googled it and read it over and over again. The words are so powerful that I wanted to share it here on my blog.
Most people get married believing a myth that marriage is a beautiful box full of all the things they have longed for: companionship, intimacy, friendship etc…The truth is, that marriage at the start is an empty box, you must put something in before you can take anything out. There is no love in marriage, love is in people, and people put love in marriage. there is no romance in marriage, you have to introduce it into your marriage. A couple must learn the art, and form the habit of giving, loving, serving, praising, of keeping the box full. If you take out more than you put in, the box will be empty.
With a heart full of love,
Mrs Chalke xx
So I’m writing this post as we are packing to go away for the night tonight and see the new year in, in style! A little tradition of ours now I guess, we always book a hotel somewhere and a table at a restaurant and spend New Year’s Eve somewhere new & start as we mean to go on!
This year has been a crazy ride. So much has happened and as a couple, we have grown so much.
In June we went to Turkey on holiday with my mum! It was all of our first time to Turkey and we fell in love with it. Our hotel was amaaaaazing, it was without a doubt the hottest country we have ever been to, we have booked and paid to go back next June for two weeks this time, we loved it that much!
In July we got married without anybody knowing! Yep that’s right, just us two doing it exactly how we wanted to. I hired the best make up artist I could find to do my hair and make up, picked out a cheap dress online that was lacy and floaty, I even got my mum to do my bouquet without actually knowing they were for her daughter! We managed to get an AMAZING photographer who charged us very little and gave us so much of his time, and we asked two friends to be our witnesses! It was perfect. We wrote our own vows to each other, which will always be my most favourite part about our wedding day, not many couples can say they did that. In the evening we ate Italian food. Honestly our day couldn’t have been anymore perfect. We only announced it to everyone including our family & friends, 24 hours later when we were on the motorway on our way to Brighton for a few days for our “minimoon” of course, we got some mixed reactions from people, but on the whole, the majority of people we love and care about were all SO happy for us and nothing but supportive!
I launched this blog in August, a couple of weeks after we got married. It really started out as a diary, somewhere where I was hoping to document the first year of married life. Within 3 weeks I received my first paid collaboration, which then went on to different companies and brands emailing me regularly with different offers and sponsorships. In the 5 months this blog has been going, our lives have changed massively. I am now a brand ambassador for several different companies, I am paid by two major ones and I’m so passionate about everything I have been lucky enough to promote or review on here for my readers. I can’t wait to see where 2019 takes us.
Our honeymoon was in September, we went to Barcelona! Fell in love with the beaches and the history behind it, the weather was kind to us too!
We celebrated yet another Christmas together! This year was the first Christmas where our baby cousin Rory was in England to really celebrate it and enjoy it with us. First of many! It was all new and exciting to him and we made so many amazing memories as a family that we will cherish forever. Rory and Tazmyn are literally best mates. The way he looks at her 🥰
I am so grateful for everything 2018 has given me. Some doors have been closed, but new ones have opened, and for that, I am so blessed. We have said goodbye to people that no longer serve us any purpose, but we have also created memories with the people that mean most to us. Memories that will last a lifetime. We have visited new places, we have started new traditions, we have tried new things, learnt more about ourselves and truly grown as people. I am now a wife! How crazy is that? I wasn’t one of these girls who spent their lives dreaming of my wedding day, it was never something I had mentally planned in my head, but when I met Tazmyn I knew she was my forever, my home. I absolutely love being Mrs Chalke I don’t think I’m ever going to get bored of hearing that or seeing it on letters we get in the post! I am truly content. Everything feels like it was always supposed to.
So from my wife & I, we would like to take this opportunity to wish all of you a very happy and healthy 2019! We hope it is filled with love, laughter and even more memories than this year. Remember to love more, to laugh more, and to take all the pictures in the world because moments are just that, moments, but photographs last a lifetime! ✨
& to my readers, the ones who lurk, never comment, but read every single post without fail, the loyal ones who always show love, the bloggers who have truly inspired me to write this year (Bethany Rose you know you’re at the top of my list, always!) those of you who have now become friends, and helped me whenever I’ve had something I’m not sure of.. Thank You! This has been the most amazing, life changing year for me, & I am so lucky to have been able to share it with all of you. Stay around for the ride, because 2019, we’re going bigger and better! 💗
With love, always
Mrs & Mrs Chalke x
I used to hate Sundays before I met Tazmyn, I mean like really hate them, but I’ve found they’re definitely more enjoyable if either A – there’s a roast dinner involved or B – we go out for the day and do something. Unfortunately there was no Sunday dinner for us today, but we did spend a few hours in Windsor which was really nice.
I’ve said it before but I’ll say it again, I absolutely love living where we do. I would never and will never want to live anywhere else. There’s links to so many places and so many things to do, it’s home of Windsor Castle, why on earth would I ever want to leave?
We couldn’t decide on lunch at pizza express or a pub today, settled for the pub because we have had a pizza express recently so fancied something different, plus we weren’t majorly hungry.
We had chicken wraps and chips at the King & Castle pub in Windsor, directly opposite Windsor Castle, it was super cheap too £6.50 including a drink so absolute bargain!
We did a bit of shopping afterwards too..
I had to be dragged out of River Island because I wanted to buy the contents of the shop. There’s like 3 bags I want, a pair of boots, a purse, perfume, not to mention the rest! I was just about to buy the perfume when Tazmyn told me not to. Turns out she bought it for me without me knowing, love her 😍
Paris by night from River Island literally smells insane, have you tried it? Even though Tazmyn got me one today, I’m going to ask for another for Christmas. Perfect stocking filler right? 🎁
We had coconut hot chocolates in the best place in all the universe, Pret obviously. If anyone is stuck what to get me for Christmas (you shouldn’t be because I’m the easiest person to buy for.. Pret gift cards will do!) ☕️🍂🌷✨
Once we were home, it was pjs on, candles burning, heating whacked up high, chorizo, tomato and garlic pasta bake in the oven & a night in front of the telly watching the Strictly and XFactor results! – little mix’s performance on the X factor though… 😮😮 aaamaazing!! I think I need to add tickets to their tour on my elfster wish list this year 🤣😭😩 love them.
What did your Sunday consist of? Let me know, I hope you all had a lovely day 🌷✨😘